PERSONAL PROBLEMS
Question:—What can one do with a bore? I am not over strong, and very sensitive to people. When some people come to see me—and stay—and they always do stay—it makes me ill—I cannot work well next day.
—Sufferer.
Answer:—My dear Sufferer. Your problem is a serious one. Bores are disagreeable to all and dangerous to some. They cannot be arrested or imprisoned; and kerosene does not lessen their numbers. They commit no active offence—it is not by doing that they affect us so painfully, but simply by being. Especially by being there.
Sub-question:—Can a bore be a bore when no one else is present.
Sub-answer:—We suspect they can. It is because he bores himself when alone that he seeks continually to bore others.
Yet some of them are well-intentioned persons who would be grieved to know they were injurious. Even the dull and thick-skinned are open to offence if it is forced upon them.
We suspect that the only real cure is courage on the part of the victim. If the suffering host or hostess frankly said, “My dear Sir—or Madam—you are making me very tired. I wish you would go away,” the result would leave nothing to be desired. “But,” says the sufferer in alarm, “they would never come to see us again!”
Well. Do you want them to?
“But—sometimes I like to see them.” Or, “I cannot afford to quarrel with So and So!”
Ah! We will now quote Emerson. “It you want anything, pay for it and take it, says God.”
Question:—”I have a sick parent. What is my whole duty in the case?”
—Filial Devotee.
Answer:—It depends on your sex. If you are a man, your duty is to provide a home for the patient, a servant, a nurse, a physician, food, medicine, and two short calls a day. You will be called “A Devoted Son.”
If you are a woman, you need provide none of these things; but must wait upon the patient with your own hands as nurse and servant; regardless of your special ability. If you do at does a devoted son you will be called “An Unnatural Daughter.”
Question:—”Why do the shapes of shoes change from year to year? Surely the shapes of our feet do not.
Answer:—This is one of the inscrutable minor problems of Fashion and The Market. The desire for novelty; the lack of a real feeling for beauty; a savage indifference to physical comfort, the pressure of necessity or greediness urging the manufacturer to sell more shoes than people need; the brow-beaten submissiveness of most purchasers and the persuasive—or insolent—compulsion of salesmen; all these combine to make our feet ugly and painful.